"Those who fantasize about how wonderful life could be are ill prepared for the setbacks that frequently occur along the rock road to success, or perhaps they enjoy indulging in escapism and so become reluctant to put in the effort required to achieve their goals."
So it's not about visualizing the result, it's about creating an image of what it looks like to do the work that leads to the result you seek.
You don't want to visualize becoming a bestseller... instead, visualize doing the work that proceeds becoming a bestseller. What are the actions that lead to a bestseller? Interview best sellers and focus your questions on the actions that led up to them becoming one.
Reflect on the result, but think about the biggest hurdle you will face to achieving it. Focus on what you need to do when you face the challenge. Do this for each challenge you can shape.
Consider what it takes to complete a triathlon. You want the feeling of accomplishing a difficult task and the improved physique that many triathletes have. When asked 'why do you do it' near the end of his 4th Ironman triathlon, his answer was that it's all about setting out to complete what you started. If you've never done it before, ask someone who has.
This process can be applied to any outcome you want to produce.
Visualize the outcome, but focus more on the actions that lead to that outcome rather than the result itself.
Bob Parsons explained to me that until you can accept the worse possible outcome and still be ok with it, you'll never take the steps needed to achieve it.
If you don't possess the confidence, nothing will get you there. Beginners mind has an element of naive enthusiasm. It's when we get excited about something before we understand the steps to get it.
For visualization to work, we must believe we can achieve whatever it is we are committed to. We will gain confidence along the way not because of the absence of roadblocks, but because of our ability to triumph over those roadblocks. What's key here is to possess the confidence that you have the ability to overcome whatever obstacles stands between you and the result you seek.
I'm going to try this myself with an area of my life I've been struggling with for years - sleep. I know how good it feels to have a good night's rest. I achieve it maybe once/month. Now I want to have that feeling everyday. So here's what I'm gonna do about it.
The problem is that by the time you are not sleeping, it's too late. It's far more challenging (perhaps impossible) to get back to sleep once you're awake. The best you can do is try again tomorrow and avoid the actions that led up to the sleeplessness.
Last night, I got caught up in a project after 9pm. Normally I'm getting ready for bed by 9... but tonight, my mind was highly engaged in a project. I rushed through my pre-sleep ritual and lied in bed awake. Even once I did fall asleep, I awoke several times throughout the night.
Concrete plans lead to major life changes.