Infinite possibilities collapse at the point of decision.
Every decision we make either takes us closer to our ideal or pushes us further away.
How you spend your time either exposes you or promotes you.
One approach is to simply do what is in front of you to do next. Clare Dimond goes into this concept deeper in her book Sane: Getting Real with Reality.
RE: If you're bored...
Do a PMI (Present Moment Investigation): Another way of saying become aware. Notice what you're missing. Life is never boring because you can always notice something new. Sometimes you just have to zoom in further. Read more about PMI here.
Indecision stems from...
Item 2 - Confidence: If you lack the knowledge, the solution is to gain the knowledge.
It's +1 or -1.
It's our beliefs and habits that shape our thoughts. It's our thoughts that determine our words. It's our words that determine our actions. Begin to notice the self talk. You can convince yourself of any decision, it's the wisdom that matters. Make the wise decision.
Every decision matters. Or does it?
Do you overthink the ramifications of every decision you make? If so, you are likely wearing out our decision muscle in unproductive ways.
I am guilty of this. I had to buy some AA batteries yesterday. I went on to amazon and was overwhelmed by the choices. I like to get the best deal, but also notice that some batteries last longer than others (I recently bought some from Harbor Freight, and although they were dirt cheap, they were burned out quickly).
Whether it’s to eat an apple or have a donut. Little decisions CAN matter. But big decisions have a bigger impact, but the point is that you want to make the hard ‘little' decisions now, then the larger hard decisions are easier later.
Consider the 80/20 rule: Less than 20% of your decisions make up 80% of the results.
A decision to refinance your house when interest rates are low is far more important than which gas station you go to.
Lots of businesses (including gas stations) could take a clue from businesses that have found ways to remove the decision fatigue for their clients.
The thing that was missing previously in the Merlin Principle - and which I now realize is most critical - is the language component. Just having the awareness of your future days is not enough - you have to implant the words that determine the direction you will go!
However… never live in a space of regret! Remember this - we always make the best decision we can the moment we make it. Hindsight is helpful, but regret is hateful.
Being enlightened helps us to make better decisions because we are aware when our emotions are influencing our decision to think, say, or do something.
This is idea of ‘fake it till you make it’ - which I have seen so much evidence to support!
Not only are we ‘Meaning Making Machines’ - but the beliefs we have (rooted in reality or not), define the majority of how we think. How we think determines how we speak. How we speak determines how we act, and what we get in life. It’s all rooted in our beliefs.
Choose beliefs that serve you. Let go of beliefs that no longer serve you (to reach your goals).
A belief is nothing but a feeling of certainty.
Our culture has many false beliefs. Yoga and meditation will help you see the truth. And the truth is rooted in a feeling of peace and contentment - similar to the sense of peace and joy I experience in yoga and mediation.
Since beliefs are rooted in a feeling of certainty - you can have ANYTHING you want if you believe it with enough certainty. Not only can we sense false certainty - but others can to. If you aren’t getting what you want, than you simply don’t have enough conviction for it.
Every decision closes off a number of possibilities and opens up others.
Once we decide, our options become limited. We must work within the confined space & time provided by our decision.
Like 'The Man' in the game Adventure, when we enter a room, our options are limited to what can exist in that room.
Our decisions are driven by feelings, not logic. The foods we eat have a real impact on our feelings. Therefore, the foods you eat have an indirect impact on the decisions you make.
Why is it so difficult to choose a donut? Or an ice cream flavor?
The reason I love my monthly subscriptions to my barber, carwash, and yoga studio is because it removes decision fatigue. One step up would be letting a company like Blue Apron decide what you will eat this week.
Are you paralyzed by the array of choices when you look at a menu? One of the great things about IN-N-OUT burger is the simplicity it it's menu. I bet 9/10 you order the same thing.
Q. If I offered you a program where I handled all your decisions, how much would that be worth?