My unexpected path to enlightenment.


I spent much of 2016 in a funk. I awoke many mornings with a deep sense of regret. I was beating myself up for decisions I had made that had led me to where I found myself. I felt I had made an irreversible mistake moving to the California central coast. My business had suffered a setback. Home prices (including the one we had sold in 2013) had been soaring since we sold, to the tune of six figures beyond our sale price. We had moved to a place where the cost of living was nearly 40% higher. Given the fact my business was down, you can see why I was feeling such financial pressure.

The outside world provided much to feel secure about either as this was the height of the Clinton/Trump campaign.

Our mortgage was higher, but our income was lower. As compared to where we had left, I strongly felt that financially, we had made a major misstep.

Given the increased cost of a housing in the area we left (and rentals being both scarce and costly), moving back was no longer an option. Regardless, my wife had no intention of going back (nor could we afford to do so). Not having what you want casts a darkness over everything you've got. Despite the fact we were living in paradise and had a good life, I didn't see it as such. Some nights I couldn't sleep because I had such a knot in my stomach that I had done something so 'wrong.'

After much suffering, I finally came to realize a truth that set me free. I know there were many contributors to the awakening to the truth I felt, and I doubt I will ever acknowledge all of them. I will try to suggest some of the books and videos I found particularly helpful. If a particular piece I suggest doesn't resonate with you at first, I recommend you revisit at a future date. Experiences you have between readings can often give the content new meaning. It has for me, to the extent I don't even recall reading the book previously! Such was the case with From Here to Here. When I read it in the midst of my suffering, it brought significant clarity and ultimately relief I was so badly needing. I had a similar experience when I reread Coming Into Existence: The Struggle To Become An Individual by Raymond Rogers.

What aided my 'awakening to what already was' was meditation and yoga. I acquire knowledge from a variety of sources, but it's during and after meditation that the most significant insights bubble up into my consciousness. After 3 years of meditating, I can attest it is an essential aspect of my life I will never let go of. I also feel that yoga and meditation go hand in hand. Yoga prepares your body for mediation, and mediation is the icing on the cake of yoga.

Sidebar: While the application of my meditation practice deepened during a 2-day mini retreat I attended in Jan-2017, I owe the full appreciation of my practice to my teacher, John Freeman who teaches TM on the central coast. TM was the best investment (in addition to Landmark and MBSR) that I ever made in myself.

The truth.

What if you found out that everything you ever needed was exactly what you always got. And that you'll continue to get exactly what you truly need when you need it. And that there's nowhere else you need to be other than where you are right now. And that there's nothing you will ever actually need that you won't get when you need it. In the end, all you need is what you got.

Would you agree that who you are is defined by your actions?

But what if you discovered that your actions are not defined by you? At least not the 'you' as you think yourself to be.

And if you are not in control of your actions, then who is?

The decisions we make stem from two main sources:

  1. Your inherited neurology (how our brains were wired from conception).
  2. Our conditioning (heavily defined by events of our childhood which were largely determined by fate).

Our experience of life and all the decisions that impact our results flow indirectly from pre-conscious. What we are aware of (or conscious of) is downstream from a preconscious source. The only influence we can have on our preconscious is through experience. Genetics and conditioning are the preexisting conditions, but experience is the wild card.

One form of suffering is the result of believing we can 'willpower' our way through a struggle in our life. Free will as I'll define it is a myth. The more we believe we have free will over our actions, the more frustrated in life we become.

Our blueprint

The blueprint of our life looks like this:

We take up residence in a pre-built home which was built by our parents, and contains all the idiosyncrasies of their making (which in part was inherited from their parents).

Our experience (and thus reactions that result) is never objective because we are wearing lenses that are built from the experiences we've encountered up to this point. Even our beliefs are grossly inaccurate since they are based on evidence from a subjective view and the explanations we've been given.

For the most part, the blueprint which makes up your being was written by someone else. Who are you is the cumulative result of all those who lived before you and contributed to your DNA. Your parents, your parents parents, your parent parents parents, etc… all played a part in drafting the blueprint that makes up who you are.

Let’s imagine you were born and put into a room with no exposure to the outside world. Your experiences would be severely limited. You would no doubt closely resemble your parents. All you’d be is what you inherited from them.

But thankfully, we are not confined to a room. We are thrust into a highly dynamic, unpredictable world. And thus our conditioning begins. Social conditioning is the strongest and it's all we have until we begin to discover our inner truth and connect with our inner guide.

But even as we think we can guide ourselves, we can’t.

It’s been an assumption based on an illusion that we decide. The illusion that free will exists.

We don’t have free will. At least not as free will is typically defined.

What we are free to do is experiment, throw ourselves into a new set of conditions, and in doing so, we can influence our higher consciousness (upstream).

Our higher consciousness influences our preconscious, which actually determines the decisions we make and the lens upon how we experience the world we live.

Through meditation, we tap into our higher consciousness.

If we had to consciously make a decision for every moment of our day, we'd have a nervous breakdown by noon.

Our preconscious contains the data used in cognitive processing, but preconscious itself is outside our conscious awareness. Other forms of preconscious processing include: priming, tip of the tongue phenomenon, and blindsight (see links below to learn more).

Since preconscious is out of conscious reach, we cannot recall it at will. Preconscious is always at play and called upon when it is needed. The information contained in our preconscious is delivered on a need-to-know-basis only. That is, you will only receive the information when you need to know it.

What this means is that while we like to think we are the driver of our lives, we are only along for the ride. Who we truly are is an observer to the unfolding of life.

The good news is you need no longer envy anyone or pity another. For we are all victims of a set of circumstances outside our immediate control.

We either had skilled designers (our parents) or we didn't. We either had favorable conditioning growing up, or we didn't.

The best we can do is work with what we have, and find our uniqueness in the world. Be proud of our uniqueness and do our best to appreciate the uniqueness in others and accept everyone for who they are. For who they are is not their fault, nor their doing to claim credit for.

It’s not what we know, but what we do with what we know.

The feedback to our preconscious occurs through experience. Experience is the evidence needed. Our preconscious will not believe anything else.


My intent in Wireframed is to provide you with 'code' that you can integrate into your preconscious. They are snippets you insert upstream to produce desired results downstream.


Wireframed is a model where we examine life from the perspective of a program.

We are not programmed to solve every problem, but problems do give our programs something work on.

Life only demands from you the strength you possess.

I do what I can. The more I do, the more I can.

If fear is plaguing you, then let the program run. You will find that the fear disappears when we do the very thing we fear doing. The experience itself is what allows the fear to lessen.

How to you deal with a fear of uncertainty? By living through uncertainty.

The fear I have of poverty stems from the fact I've never lived in poverty. Those who have are in a way fortunate because it's a fear they no longer live with. Those who have near death experiences no longer fear death. It's the unknown that gives fear it's legs.

By stepping into that which we fear to experience, we almost always discover it's not nearly as bad as we imagined it to be. Regardless, we learn (perhaps trial by fire) what we need to know for the fear to no longer get in our way.

To get what you want, you must accept whatever happens and continue on your way.

There are no limits, only plateaus.

When you reach a plateau, go further. ~Bruce Lee

To expand your comfort zone, you must step beyond your comfort. When the comfort ends, the challenge begins.

Experiences produce chemicals in our bodies which create feelings. New experiences create new feelings, new feelings create new thoughts, new thoughts create new actions, and new actions produce new outcomes.

Our thoughts come from our mind, but where does our mind come from? Preconscious precedes consciousness (awareness).

Knowledge is the precursor to all experience. Our knowledge, our ability to acquire new knowledge is only limited by the experience of applied knowledge.

Our brain is the hardware, and our mind is the software. 50% of our program was written while we were still in the womb (we inherited the programming from our parents combined DNA). 50% however is written by experience. Therefore, half of who we are is our own doing. The other half is a gift from your parents.

To become limitless, adopt these key beliefs:

  1. Acknowledge a power greater than our anything we will ever comprehend exists. By giving into this greater power, we find our truth. Great achievers put their trust into this power, and are rewarded for their faith in it.
  2. Take 100% responsibility for your life. There is a tight connection between our mind and body, and this belief is essential to keeping the two in harmony. Our bodies are wonderful self-healers when we are in tune and living mindfully.
  3. Know that we can reinvent ourselves. We can become someone else. We must ask questions to reveal new truths, and as long as you are learning (and applying that knowledge), you are expanding. As long as you are expanding, you have purpose, and as long as you have purpose, your life has meaning.

Asking the question ‘who would I have to become to have ____ in my life?’ begins to reveal the work necessary to rewire ourselves to acquire that which we desire. Rewiring requires new knowledge, but knowledge alone is only the first level. We must apply that knowledge and experience for ourselves to develop new beliefs that will take us in a new direction. What we believe is what influences our preconscious.We can only become (and get) what we are wired for. Rewiring is the process of rehearsing ourselves to be that which we want to become. Fake it till you make it. But to think and live as if it were true can only take us so far. Without the wisdom (knowledge+experience), we are living in a false reality.

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