Future Self

Out of the blue, I received a complimentary review copy (kindle) from Ben Hardy of this title. Here are my thoughts and observations and ultimately I will post a review on Amazon.

Fear or Reward?

The first idea that is presented that drew me in was this idea that 80% of us are apparently more motivated by fear & avoidance than by reward.

If this were true, you either need to learn how to become the 20% that are motivated by reward (drawn forward) or reframe your goals so they are triggers for fear and avoidance.

Hardy continues:

"We have a lot of things working against us when it comes to living effectively. Shifting our goals from fear-based, reactive, and short term to proactive, long term, and love-based is the path to a successful and happy life. Your view of your Future Self is the compass that draws you forward. This takes us to the growing body of research on the subjects of prospection, identity, and Future Self. TED Talks by prominent psychologists are aimed at the critical importance of one’s connection to and creation of their own Future Self."

So the next area to wrap your head around is how you can turn the present into the past and the future into the present.

Is it a matter of shifting your POV? Perhaps it's a matter of moving away from our fixed mindset:

“In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort.” (Dweck, 2015)

“In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.” (Dweck, 2015)

Motivation stems from a clear outcome you truly desire with a belief that you can succeed. It's up to you to discover a path to get there.

What this leads me to believe is that many of us don't have a clear image of our future self.

Having a growth mindset requires that we accept our own limitations. That we accept others are superior to us. And we don't like to feel inferior... so cutting others down (cancelling is the extreme) gives us a sense of superiority.

Shifting into a growth mindset requires that I embrace the incomplete. That I no longer see unfinished as bad. To not finish what I started because I am leaving the door open to something even better?

Engage in ways to see effort as progress and setbacks as steps forward. Committing myself to my best self - the future self - the fulfillment of a future I've imagined, yet staying open to what that is and how it shows up. It's about having a growth future mind rather than fixating on one image of it. Let's be honest - the future is more uncertain than ever before. So if you are anchored to this idea of how the world (and others in it) are going to show up, you're creating a lot of unnecessary angst.

Using the clarity of how I want to show up for myself and others, I am driven to make wiser choices and be more accepting and less self-deprecating of myself and others. With every facet and fiber of my being, I choose from the POV of my future self.

When the present becomes the past and the future becomes the present, we move through the world more confidently. If the future is now, we become who we imagine ourselves to be. We literally are being the person we want to be. We are pulled into the future and the past is gone. The past is no reflection of who we are, only what we've done.

Confidence comes from an agreement with your future self that sees your current self authentically without fear. To be living fearlessly free is freedom from the tyranny of being anchored to your past. You live ff into the future self! You literally lean into the best version of yourself. Your best is yet to come.

Be advised that you will fall into a groove, and that groove can begin to feel like a rut!

Routine is healthy, but shake up your routine to avoid becoming inflexible.

It’s the idea of the Merlin principle, isn’t it?

The closer your connection to your future self, the greater your life will be.

It’s about living in the present with the intention that you are becoming the ideal version of yourself.

But if You don’t have an ideal vision of yourself there’s no vision to live in to!

So let’s get clear on that vision of yourself!

Future Brian is kind, calm, confident, gentle, and happy! He’s got the self control and self discipline to live to a potential that is evergreen!

Easeful patient and kind.

Merlin makes good choices.

A future self pov:

Wow, your future self is looking back on your current self with awe. Your life is amazing! He wishes you could see it from his POV!

And then Brian began to see his life in the present as clearly as his future self did… knowing someday very soon that all of it would be gone.

Ask before you make the decision to act, is this what my future self would want me to do now?